[media-credit id=1 align=”alignright” width=”247″][/media-credit]Imagine this: you are at a party with friends socializing, and having a good time. You are minding your own business, until you feel a tap on your shoulder. As you turn around to investigate who touched you and why, you are met with, “Sorry, but I don’t swing that way. You are not my type.” This person is somebody who you do not even think about in a romantic or sexual manner.

When in this situation, you are usually faced with two decisions: roll your eyes and brush it off or let them know the truth of the situation which could hurt their feelings. If there was a legitimate interest you would make it known.

People say that the eyes are a window to the soul; that they can tell us a lot about a person by gazing into them. Body language experts can deduce much of a person’s through the eyes.

This misjudgment is a natural occurrence that happens when eye contact is made or is believed to have been made. Women face this issue more regularly compared to men. Men who experience this often times are hearing it from other male members.

The pupils are a part of our body language that we have no control over.

As well as adjusting the amount of light taken in the process of sight, stated Eckhard Hess, in his published article, “The role of pupil size in communication” in the “Scientific American”, found that the pupil dilates when we are interested in the person we are talking to or object we are looking at.

Check a friend’s pupil size when you are talking to them about something interesting, then change the subject to accounting and watch their pupils contract.

Generally, in Western societies and other cultures, eye contact with a person is expected to be regular, but not overly persistent. Constant eye contact is often considered to be an attempt at intimidation, causing the person who is the object of a person’s gaze to feel overly studied and uncomfortable.

Even between humans and animals, persistent eye contact is sometimes unadvisable. The New Zealand Medical Journal reported that one reason so many young children fall victim to attacks by pet dogs is their over-powering regular eye contact with pets, which causes them to feel threatened and defensive.

Reading body language is not a tell-tale sign of peoples indications, and jumping to conclusions can make you look unintelligent and cause embarrassment.

Next time you are out and feel you have caught the attention of someone making you uncomfortable, I would suggest you wait until they make their intentions clear to you. Let them specifically tell you they are interested or directly flirt. If you jump to conclusions, you have the chance of being told, “You are not my type either. I was looking at the person behind you. You are just the D.U.F. (Designated Ugly Friend).”