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[media-credit id=41 align=”alignnone” width=”400″]\"Adultery<\/a>[\/media-credit]Butterflies in your stomach, you found the guy of your dreams and are on cloud nine. You get this sick feeling and your intuition kicks in that this true love might be having an affair.<\/p>\n

People lie for many reasons, but when they start lying over and over, it can become second nature and when they start to lie to their boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband about little things, you may think to yourself, \u201cWhat did I do wrong?\u201d or \u201cAm I not attractive enough?\u201d Whether society deems it wrong or society believes that human beings are not equipped to be monogamist, adultery hurts both partners.<\/p>\n

Your partner may blame it on media, their peers or up-bringing, and that may be true for some. For the most part, however, cheating in your relationship has to do with \u201cchoice.\u201d \u201cMedia depicts the normal acceptance,\u201d said Angela Hughes, director of business development specialist for County Federal Credit Union.<\/p>\n

\u201cI think cheating is personal,\u201d and has nothing to do with the media, said Michelle Martinez, 19, an administration of justice student.
\nWomen\u2019s and men\u2019s reasons for adultery are different in their desires and fantasies.<\/p>\n

Donald Beck, 22, a science major, said men cheat because \u201cthey want someone new, different or like getting caught.\u201d Hughes, 49 and married, said men cheat because \u201cthey have fear of commitment and responsibility.\u201d <\/p>\n

Women, on the other hand, have other ways of cheating. <\/p>\n

Krista Lopez, 18, a sociology major, said, \u201cWomen are trying to prove something to themselves, but it doesn\u2019t prove anything.\u201d If she was cheated on, Krista said, she would forgive him once, depending. \u201cShame on me once, shame on him twice.\u201d <\/p>\n

Married means commitment, one love for eternity with your true love, but married couples can cheat just like other adulterers. Husbands and wives cheat because,\u201cthey were not ready for commitment,\u201d Martinez said.<\/p>\n

Eric Lartigue, 21, an SJCC student, said a married couple cheats usually because \u201cTheir marriage is going bad.\u201d<\/p>\n

The effect of adultery is not just about the couple but it could involve children. The adultery is not what a child sees, but they see less communication and love and tension said James A. Patterson, a San Jose City College psychology professor. \u201cThe children are influenced by the parents\u2019 less communication. It is a bigger signpost for problems.\u201d<\/p>\n

Men and women have their own reasons for committing adultery, quenching their desires, telling lies and in the interim, ruin a relationship to satisfy personal interests. <\/p>\n

Cheating has been around since Adam and Eve, men and women have been less than faithful because of up-bringing, attraction to something different or having a unsatisfied libido. We can blame it on media and other reasons, but does that mean adultery should be accepted? Should we throw out the word commitment?<\/p>\n

Adultery may satisfy the other partner but cheating can affect the boyfriend, girlfriend or wife and sometimes the children. I think cheaters are only in a relationship for financial security, sexual benefits and a place to live. \t<\/p>\n

\u201cSatisfying your desires, fantasies is a very normal for men and women,\u201d said Patterson. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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